Lucas isnt sleeping very well again and he spends a huge chunk of the night (around midnight to about 6am) rolling around/sitting up/climbing/flopping over me/rolling interspersed with feeding from the milkbar (otherwise known as breastfeeding) whilst I, who obviously cant sleep whilst the baby pops on and off me every few minutes throughout the night, lay around being incredibly annoyed. What seems to be happening is he eats solids all day then drinks milk all night. And no matter how I try, he wont eat less or feed just on milk no matter how I try and convince him.
Other than that he's doing great. He has learnt to move around 360 degrees in a circle whilst sitting and leans out to try and crawl though he hasn't quite figured out how yet. He even pushed himself from laying on his front to sitting for the first time the other night. Hasn't done it since though. He keeps giving hugs and kisses and is developing an iron will - lucky me!
We had to buy some more soothers this week as his are rather well worn now. Im still buying the 3-6mth Avent ones as for some reason the 6-18 ones are rounded and rub his chin. We tend to buy from Amazon as shops dont stock this 3-6mth ones any more. I never had this problem when my others were small, Avent claim there is no market for this size any more but the 0-6mth ones that are sold these days are way too big for newborns up to 3mth.
Argh, Im so frustrated with how time-consuming he is though and even more so that my baby-brain doesn't seem to be improving any. I really rely on my friend S help but despite a good first week things aren't going so well. She keeps being late, cancelling or not really doing what needs doing. This is the down side of employing a friend. She is never that reliable at the best of times and time-keeping leaves a lot to be desired so should have known better. And I know I only pay her £45 a week, but it bothers me that as a friend she feels she can take such liberties when actually I am pretty desperate. I've always found unreliability hard to take, one of my little quirks I suppose..
I suppose I shouldn't judge really, I'm hardly Mrs Reliable these days either. I am rubbish at replying to comments, emails are outstanding from at least 2 weeks ago, and my to-do list is ever growing. Texts are left unanswered or forgotten and I dont seem to get housework done either. Failure with a huge capital F. And in truth it probably bothers me more than it bothers anyone else because I
So this week was meant to be half term although as usual we didnt break for the week. We were going to go to Devon but didn't in the end because Lucas was [STILL!] ill and snotty. Instead we didnt manage visits/visitors four out of five days. On Monday C and her girls came to visit, on Tuesday we went to Gillingham to see R and her children. Wednesday we got a visit from L and her children and on Thursday C came over again. It was good as S didn't bother coming all week so it was lovely to have company, it meant I felt less alone. And I do enjoy a good natter and a cup of tea, not to mention the cakes that Emma always bakes when we have visitors - it was a very Cakey week!
The 14th was of course Valentines day. Not that we celebrate it, we just see it as another day and try to do nice things through-out the year. Id never criticise others celebrating it (or not) though, I think its a lovely festival and to each their own. What it does signify, at least to me, is the beginning of spring; brighter lighter days, washing on the line, slightly warmer weather, and I feel better. Since 14th its been lovely, if cold, weather almost every single day. I do so much better when the sun shines.
Also this week I finally treated myself to some proper nursing bras and nursing tops. Until now I have been delaying because I wasn't sure how long breastfeeding would last and I didn't want to make a long term investment just in case. After doing it for 7 months its safe to say Im in it for the long haul so it made sense to buy tops that preserve at least a little of my dignity. I bought tops from Mamas and Papas, and Bras from MotherBliss. The tops were on offer so I bought 3 and they are fabulous fit. The bra's are yet to arrive but I bought some that were recommended by my friend A though they are yet to arrive so fingers crossed they are as good as A says.
STOP BEATING YOURSELF UP! That is what you have children for, so there's no need to duplicate the effort...
ReplyDeleteTill then, spring is coming and the lambing at Kingston Maurward looks fun, so why not have a day out? You never know who you might meet...
" And I know I only pay her...." tbh £45 is a lot especially if she is'nt doing what you need. Just thinking out loud here, could S's tasks be delegated to others in the family? Because if she is'nt doing what you need then she is nt helping, likewise if she is late/cancels. Now that the big 3 are older I get them to help out a bit, often I bride them with extra tv/ xbox time or a treat (they are learning life skills, how to wash up, hoover and negotiate!!)
ReplyDeleteAlso am going to add that if you have a baby who needs a lot of your time and attention you can't possibly do everything else (housework and home ed) too.
Get emma to make some cakes :) and have a family meeting, see who can do what to help
Thank you both. :)
ReplyDeleteI think a day out is definitely called for Anne.
And yes Amanda I think we do need to rethink it a bit because I am relying on her so we need to look at how its going. Good idea with the tv/xbox time that might help motivate a bit.